PILLOW TALK v1: The Right Swipe
In today’s dating life, it has never been easier to meet someone you’re attracted to. Outside of this new interaction though, having an open and honest conversation is still a challenge. When you’re matched with a person based on their visual appeal, it’s tempting to shut off the part of our brain that wonders whether this potentially significant other is complimentary in the long run. Passionate bedroom moments keep the fire and the fun in a relationship. But on the flip side, no one truly wants something that is mechanical and hedonistic - because after a while it feels soulless. Having had relationships on both sides of the spectrum, it’s about balance and the tipping point is when you have “The Talk" - That almost indefinable moment where you recognize that this is more than a fling, yet doesn’t feel quite like a relationship.
I prompted such a conversation last weekend when I wondered out loud to my partner “what is this?” Perhaps due to the lack of self-censoring and wanting to be myself, I expressed that I liked what we were starting, yet I was scared of where it might take us. We were in agreement of the feelings toward each other, but she put her perspective in the most elegant terms that I have ever heard a relationship described, and that is the ability for it to fill a space. In thinking about what we were creating as filling a space created by an absence of physical and mental attention, it gave permission to be malleable as it adapts and grows to our needs. Opening up made it clear that we were on the same page and created a healthier bond between us.
So take a risk and get a little vulnerable! You might be surprised by the reward.
